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| 5 Massive Reasons To Date Online! |
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“Divorced, Split up, Single?
Five Massive Reasons Why
You Should Be Dating Online!”
Announcing five massive reasons why single men should use online dating!
How to meet more women than you could possible have time to date.
Let’s look at the reasons…
Massive Reason #1. Convenience!
From the comfort and privacy of your own home you can relax with a cup of tea or coffee, and scroll through an assortment of potential women to meet and date!
You can even have a beer or a glass of wine while doing it…
Instead of late nights in smoky bars and going home disappointed…and then wake up smelling like an ashtray.
I don’t enjoy unhealthy, smoky bars and drunks don’t interest me. Then there’s the loud thumping music where you have to shout at each other to be heard.
Where at home and in your own time, you can go online and pick a suitable profile to email and organize to meet.
I love doing this.
So for pure convenience and ease, online dating is the number one place for meeting women!
Online dating is a major breakthrough for single men.
You can meet women you wouldn’t otherwise ever have the opportunity to meet!
Therefore it creates an even playing field for men who don’t enjoy trying to ‘pull’ [meet and seduce] women in bars.
By learning some basic skills and getting experience, any man can succeed online.
Massive Reason #2. Not Having To Face Rejection by Approaching Women Cold!
This is a major bonus for guys who are recently divorced, split up and have lost their confidence and experience with meeting women.
It is the best way to ease back into the dating scene…
You don’t have to boldly approach a woman in public and get her number for a date.
You do it online via email, with no nervousness to deal with at all.
And if you contact a profile and she ignores your email, so what?
You just move on to another until you find one to meet, easy!
Therefore you are not confronted with your fear of being rejected in public, with online dating.
And if you do get ignored or knocked back, no one knows but you and it doesn’t MATTER.
There are plenty more to choose from…
And by the time you meet, you’ve already chatted via email and on the phone so there is no need to be nervous when you meet her for coffee.
Massive Reason #3. Confidence Building!
You gain confidence by meeting women online and having success with seduction.
This is a great benefit.
When I divorced after nine years I was nervous approaching women and had little success.
Once I had been online dating for six months I was back on my feet with women.
I now have the belief and confidence to approach and meet women everywhere.
I also have more skill at handling cold women and rejection when it happens.
Because I’ve learnt that it’s impossible to succeed 100% of the time.
Every No means you are closer to a Yes.
So if you are not getting rejected, you aren’t in the game!
You HAVE to be in the game!
The confidence you get meeting and seducing women online will enable you to meet the perfect lady for you. Whether that is online or offline. It’s getting the experience that is important.
As Tony Robbins would say, ‘Repetition is the mother of skill.’ :-]
Massive Reason #4. The Infinite Amount of Suitable Women!
It truly is an infinite amount of women available online to meet.
By having such a large pool of single women to contact, there is no need to ever be short of at least one date a week.
It’s just a case of being organized and only contacting local women to make the most of your time.
There will be anything from two to thirty two different sites in your region to join and check out profiles.
There is also many NEW women joining everyday…this will continue forever!
So it’s a must for single men to get good at online dating.
You can never run out of women to contact. Even if you exhaust one service you can try another. By the time you’ve gone through all suitable profiles to meet on the other service, the original one will have new stock! :-]
Online dating is also very affordable!
Massive Reason #5. Ease of Finding Suitable Partners!
By creating your own criteria and sticking to it, you can find someone suitable so much quicker than offline.
That is of course if they are honest in their profile…
[Which sometimes they aren’t.] :-]
This saves you a lot of time and money by having criteria.
For example, I don’t date women with children.
Which is hard in my age group.
But dating women with kids will never work out for me, so I just have to stick with my criteria.
I also don’t date smokers anymore…
So the more experience and confidence you get. The more definitive your criteria become.
By narrowing my criteria I have meet some great ladies a lot quicker than if I had just dated anyone who would go out with me.
Also when you approach someone in a bar you know nothing about them.
Online you get to know a reasonable amount before you make contact.
This really does increase your odds of meeting suitable partners.
I love online dating…I much prefer it to bars as an alternative.
It’s paved the way for me to be comfortable when I am single. Because I know there is a LOT of suitable women online and I’ll be back dating a nice lady sometime soon….
All the best to you…
Regards
Mick Jones
Author
About the Author
Mick Jones
http://www.howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com
Mail to; editor@howtomeetwomenontheinternet.com
Mick Jones has cut his teeth at the front lines of the internet dating fields. After many wounds and battle scars Mick now has consistent success. Mick is convinced any man can too. To subscribe to his FREE weekly newsletter, click on the link above now.
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| Are Affairs Healthy? |
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Intimacy is the unique bond between two people that links them together emotionally, spiritually and sexually. The meshing of these elements forms the cornerstone of a monogamous relationship and explains in part, its distinctiveness to the human species. It also explains why its absence foretells non-exclusivity, suggesting that successful and healthy relationships require more than sex to function. It is the feeling of connectedness that forms the basis of intimacy making it possible for relationships to grow and sustain the challenges that are often brought on by stress, illness, and work and family problems. Intimacy is the glue that holds relationships together taking over when the intense passion of a new relationship transforms into a more enduring union based on common values, love and commitment.
For intimacy to develop and be sustained, a person must feel valued, cherished and respected by their partner. These feelings signify equity and balance in a relationship and secure the bond between the partners. Equally important is the need for effective communication of these feelings because without it, a rift can develop. If not reversed, the link between partners is at risk of being lost. Thus the greatest threat to intimacy is not exposure to attractive people of the opposite sex, but the inability of a couple to feel and communicate their connectedness to each other.
The circumstances that contribute to the fracturing of the intimate bond are diverse but most often involve transferring emotional energy that was once directed toward the relationship to other sources such as career, children, outside interests and friends. While good relationships can weather temporary emotional absences, if they go on indefinitely, they too will suffer. Under these conditions people may reconnect emotionally and spiritually with someone outside of their relationship by once again fulfilling their needs for acceptance and understanding. Relationships such as these often begin benignly but may later evolve by becoming sexual. This pattern is most typical of "affairs of the heart", affairs that pose the greatest threat to the primary relationship.
When people find themselves in a loveless marriage, two things come to mind:
1) You're having an affair is probably not a breach in intimacy. In other words, the "cheating" is not on an emotional level since the feelings have been gone for quite a while.
2) We all have a need to be loved and feel connected. From what you write, you are not connected to or loved by your spouse but it appears as if you are with and by your lover. The challenge remains, how do you reconcile this with yourself and your lifestyle? As in many things there are many trade offs. In your case, it is happiness and fulfillment for deception (and all that goes with it) and the inability for you to share your life totally with your lover. You asked, can you still carry on a normal family life? The answer is, I guess so. But it means compartmentalizing your life and living in two different worlds.
The more important question for people in these situations to answer is: "Do you think you can do it?" Look deep inside yourself and examine your values, morals and lifestyle. If you are fine with it, then why not. If you cannot then, examine your options such as separation, divorce and what is becoming more popular, a "living arrangement". The latter is an arrangement where two people agree to maintain the structure of their legal marriage (housing, finances, family obligations) but lead separate lives socially etc. This does away with the deception, lessening the emotional burden.
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Dr. Reena Sommer is a relationship and divorce consultant. She is also the author of "The Anatomy of an Affair". For more information about affairs go to http://www.reenasommerassociates.mb.ca/info_products/anatomy_p.pdf
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| Developing a Successful Joint Custody Arrangement |
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Developing a Successful Joint Custody Arrangement
Reena Sommer, Ph.D.
You've finally got your divorce decree and you feel you can now breathe a
big sigh of relief. You may even be thinking, "no more divorce attorneys, no
more divorce
negotiations and no more custody battles!! - I can finally get on with my
life without my
ex."
For the most part, you are right - your professional relationship with your
divorce attorney is over, and you are now in a better position to make
decisions about your
future. However, here is the rub! As a parent in a joint custody
arrangement, your
relationship with your ex-spouse will continue as long as your children are
part of both of your lives.
This reality check often comes as a huge shock to parents who are newly
divorced. After all, the reason they chose to end their marriage was because
they
didn't get along and wanted to get away from each other. What now! Well,
there is life
after divorce, even for a joint custodial parent. The challenge for couples
is to
redefine their relationships and to develop cooperative co-parenting plans
based on their
shared concerns for their children.
In redefining a relationship, former spouses need to make some important
shifts in thinking and feeling. An area of difficulty for many couples is
making the shift from
being emotionally married to being emotionally divorced; moving from a
relationship based on
intimacy to one that is more businesslike in nature. The major problems lie
in the area of
personal boundaries. People make the mistake of feeling that they still have
the same call on
each other as they did while married. For example, an ex wife may feel she
is still entitled to
know with whom her ex husband spends his time or how he spends his money.
Likewise, an ex
husband may feel he can still comment on how his ex wife parks the car or
wears her
hair. Once divorced, these issues should be of no concern to either ex
partner. In essence, they
are simply "none of each other's business". When couples make this shift in
thinking and
feeling, the old buttons that could be pushed, no longer work.. The
emotional divorce is then
complete.
In developing an effective and cooperative co-parenting plan, the following
should be considered:
* Each parent must recognize the other parent as being competent to care for
the children and to have their best interests in mind
* Each parent must be willing to give the other parent full authority to
care for the children while they are in his/her care
* Each parent must recognize that any criticism of the other parent made in
the presence of the children is destructive and detrimental to their
well-being
* Each parent must be willing and able to put their personal feelings aside
when communicating with the other regarding the children
* Each parent must put their children's need for love, safety and security
above their own needs.
When people are able to meet these challenges, they will experience the
following benefits of being a joint custodial parent:
* Having the peace of mind that their children are being cared for by
someone who loves them and will place their interests above all
* Having the time to devote to one's own personal interests without being
concerned about the well-being of the children
* Knowing that there is someone to share problems and concerns that may
arise regarding the children
A joint custody arrangement can transform a once flawed relationship into a
productive parenting effort where neither person feels that he or she is a
"single" parent.
Copyright Reena Sommer 2000
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| Dictionary for online daters |
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Dating has become easier for everyone due to the emergence and success of online dating websites. You can choose the site that suits you best, look for people who have the features you desire along with common interests and contact them immediately. Some dating sites are featuring their own instant messaging for members to instantly communicate with each other. This is a great way to make contact and get excited about a new ‘date’. But when you start chatting back and forth, the other person is typing recognizable words along with small clusters of letters here and there. What are they saying? These are considered to be ‘Net Lingo’ and are commonly used Internet acronyms.
411 – Information
AFK - Away from keyboard
AISI - As I see it
AMBW – All my best wishes
ATST – At the same time
B4 – Before
B4N – Bye for now
BBIAF – Be back in a few
BBL – Be back later
BBN – Bye-bye now
BRB – By Right Back
BS – Big Smile
BTW – By the way
CID – Consider it done
CSL – Can’t stop laughing
CWYL - Chat with you later
DGT – Don’t go there
DHYB – Don’t hold your breath
DKDC – Don’t know, don’t care
EG – Evil Grin
EOM – End of message
FOAF - Friend of a friend
FTTB – For the time being
FWIW – For what it’s worth
FYI – For your information
GAL – Get a life
GL – Good Luck
GR8 – Great
GTG - Got to go
GTSY – Glad to see ya
HAGO – Have a good one
HAK – Hugs and Kisses
HB – Hurry Back
HHOK – Ha, ha only kidding
HTH – Hope this helps
IAE – In any event
IDKY – I don’t know you
ILY – I love you
IMO – In my opinion
IRL – In real life
IYSS – If you say so
J/W – Just wondering
KIT – Keep in touch
KWIM – Know what I mean
LD – Long distance
LMK – Let me know
LOL – Laughing out loud
LTIC – Laughing ‘til I cry
LTNS – Long time no see
LYL – Love ya lots
M8 – Mate
MRS – Meet real soon
MWBRL – More will be revealed later
MYOB – Mind your own business
NBD – No big deal
NOYB – None of your business
NP – No problem
OIC – Oh I see
ONNA – Oh no, not again
OOC – Out of Character
OT – Off topic
OTOH – On the other hand
POV – Point of view
RBTL – Read between the lines
RN – Right now
SF – Super friendly
SNAG – Sensitive new age guy
STYS – Speak to you soon
SWDYT – So what do you think
TAH – Take a hike
TIAIL – Think I am in love
TIC – Tongue in cheek
TM – Trust me
TMI – Too much information
TTYL – Talk to you later
TYVM – Thank you very much
VM – Voice mail
WE – Whatever
WG – Wicked grin
WYRN – What’s your real name
WYSIWYG – What you see is what you get
YAFI – You asked for it
YDKM – You don’t know me
YNK – You never know
Enjoy :-)
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| Infidelity - Again! |
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Did you know that the majority of people who experience
infidelity in their relationships will likely experience it
again - even if they move on to other relationships!!
Pretty unbelieveable - but unfortunately, it's the truth.
One would think that getting badly burned once would be
enough. But that's not quite the way it happens for many....
There are reasons for why infidelity, adultery and extra marital
affairs often become a repeated pattern for some people in
relationships and not in others. People are complicated and
things are not always as they appear.
Neverthess, a relationship's vulnerability to infidelity
comes down to the following major three factors...
ONE - People's choices in a partner or spouse are not in
line with what they need or want, or with what their
spouse or partner can give them. In other words, there
is a mismatch along the important dimension of emotional
intimacy.
TWO - People fail to make their relationships a priority
by putting the time and energy into them that they need.
That leaves them open for infidelity and cheating to
take root.
THREE - People fail to understand the issues that lead to
the infidelity, adultery and extra marital affair in the
first place. They also don't see the part they played in
the relationship's failure. For many people, it is easier
to blame someone else for things that went wrong rather
than looking inward for understanding.
Does any of this ring a bell? If it does, then it's
time to pay attention. Goodness knows, you don't need
another round of the heartache and grief that comes with
infidelity and extra marital affairs.
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ABOUT THIS ARTICLE...
This free article has been provided to you by Reena Sommer,
Ph.D. of Reena Sommer & Associates -
http://www.reenasommerassociates.mb.ca
To learn more about the REAL REASONS why people cheat, read
Dr. Sommer's free mini e-Book - "The Anatomy of An Affair"
at http://www.reenasommerassociates.mb.ca/info_product/anatomy_p.pdf
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